I wanted to begin by presenting a model of a basic communications sequence. One needs to take into consideration all of these elements when speaking or talking and wishing to make a point or sharing a complete message.
I would add to this model that communications is a geometric experience, which means if you are talking one on one to another person there are 4 dynamics involved in the interaction. If you are with 4 other people or a total of 5 people there are 25 dynamics involved in the interactions. No wonder there can be so much confusion!
Why do we need to talk in the first place? Because the conversation within your head is a series of brain chemical synapses, some which were programmed back when you were learning language. Sometimes we need to retrain those connections to offer more relevant dialogue to a current situation. We are curious and need an answer to a question. By talking we create relationships with other people and insure our survival; creating a pleasurable and satisfying life.
This of course, means that we have someone who will listen to what we say and help us clarify or comply with our ideas and thinking. If the other person in the conversation is not listening, then we get confusions and we cannot complete the interaction, find resolution, or progress. One can find themselves in circular arguments with no end in sight or within their heads unable to make a workable decision about the next steps they need to take and complete. We need to garner information from new sources and then integrate to be able to use the new information that we have received.
What can a professional listener do for me? Most pros can modify the environmental noises and personal agendas and just focus and tune into what you are saying. They offer clarification and are able to release the old patterns and stimulate new thinking and ideas. They are power tools when helping individuals and businesses make decisions that are just right for the team and the future by integrating the ideas from a different perspective. A Pro can assist people in achieving and producing satisfying results and outcomes. They are a must when needing innovative problem-solving.
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